Top Posing Mistakes Brides and Grooms Make that Photographers Don’t Always Fix. Be aware of these top bad posing habits so you can avoid them, especially if your photographer does not give much direction.
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hi I'm Kevin Elizabeth a wedding photographer based in San Diego and I am a photographer who specializes in posing and directing my couples a lot more so than other photographers and today I'm gonna be giving couples and photographers this is gonna be great for you to the top posing mistakes that I see couples make now these are only mistakes because they don't know the right way to do it so these aren't necessarily bad things they're just things that I see and I guess I would call them maybe more bad habit than mistakes so I'm going to start off with the first one and that is lauching oh my gosh people slouch so much I slouch all the time it's just human nature unless you have been trained to sit perfectly upright your entire life which go.you most people are gonna be slouching now the variations that I see of this our shoulders kind of hunched forward or just in place but they could be further back so that makes a huge difference it makes you look more confident it's just much better to look at now the second one I see sometimes is when people start kind of shrugging so it's not really slouched but it's still to do with the shoulders this makes you look really uncomfortable and not at ease and it makes you look like you're really tense and nervous shoulders away from the ears all the sudden you have a neck again and you don't look super tense so that's a huge thing I see I'm constantly telling my couples shoulders back and down shoulders away from the ear those are really big things surrounding the shoulders now the second one you want to go into because it just popped into my mind is the fear of having a fat arm okay so people's arms are going to look different when they are just loose and relaxed versus when they're pressed into the body so kind of show you guys what that is like so my arm is kind of loose here I already don't like the way it looks but if I squeeze it in tight you're going to see that it is going to look a lot bigger so instead of doing like hey suppose that a lot of women like to do in photos is this whole like Oh like very hard right angle you don't need to do that to make your arm look thin whether you're in a wedding photo or a girls night out photo this is not a great look hard right angles really draw the eye in they're a lot more masculine they're not feminine all you need to do is simply rest your hand on your thigh or in a pocket and bring that elbow slightly away from your waistline it's gonna also apply inside photo so I'm going to try to show you guys what I mean by this okay so I'm right here here's my fat squished arm which yes I know it's not really fat but we all like to think our Armus at when it's squished so if I've got I'm gonna sit up a little bit taller for you guys so if I'm here and I am like holding on to the groom I'm just like this my arm looks pretty big I can move it away a little bit and that will thin out the arm or one thing I can do is kind of slide it back and if my shirt was a little bit more fitted this is almost gonna give you more of a waistline so if you can get to the point where you can see some space between your elbow and your back that is going to really carve out your waist because if it's here it's really adding a lot more depth to the side but if it's here we can suddenly see your waistline so we don't think that your waist includes all that bulk of your arm now in case you're thinking like oh right angle again just smooth it down and kind of have a long line a long diagonal line going down there's a lot of ways that you can make this look natural but generally just kind of loosely I don't know embracing your thigh really works let's talk about hand since I just talked about arms I'll get back more on the face in just a second for hands a lot of couples will do this this is what we call shrimp cocktail hands in the wedding industry so instead of holding hands like this hold hands like this really loosely it's a very delicate way of hand-holding almost as if I pushed you too apart gently your hands would fall off so we don't want a death grip we don't want a shrimp cocktail we want a very nice loose handhold now my next tip is going to be talking about your hips and your way and I always tell my couples and other photographers whatever is closest to the camera is going to look larger whatever is further away is going to look smaller so if you don't really like your waist or just in general I do this for most couples what I will do is let me see if I can get my hips shown in here okay so say I'm kind of pushing forward a little bit some people stand like that I'm gonna do it on my tippy-toes so you're kind of pushing forward if I all of a sudden kind of lean my hips back I am going to get a smaller waist and I know that's a little hard to see on here but it is much more obvious in a full body shot so instead of like even standing straight up push the hips back a little bit it is so subtle but it really can make a huge difference for a lot of people and some people tend to like lean back and this is a two part thing never lean back from the camera because you're scared of how you're looking always kind of hinge forward because again whatever's closest the camera looks larger so if you're hinging forward from the hips a little your hips are going to look smaller and the rest of you is going to be a lot more present it's not gonna make your head look big but it's going to make that waist look smaller because your waist is no longer the first thing that's hitting the camera okay so now let's talk about the face one of the biggest things that I see couples making and most of the time it's grooms is when they do this I've talked about this before that's not a good look okay so what I encourage my grooms to do they almost always think it sounds super weird and they're like oh I don't think that's gonna work and I'm like I know what I'm doing it's totally gonna work so is to instead of having that or having this which gives you double chin or just takes away your jaw line you're going to want to make sure that instead of like here your chin is kind of straight on so it's down and then forward okay so depending on how large some of these neck is or what their posture is like I might have them come more forward but you can see the more forward I'm coming the more defined my jaw is okay so if I'm up here again not a lot of jaw action going on if I'm down here much better I do this for my driver's license photo and helps a ton but this is something that I do with a lot of my couples I'll say chin forward and down now that does not mean like this we don't want that that just means more straight ahead and then just out from your body and now it might feel like you're sticking your neck out 20 feet in the air you're not if I ever see that my couple has gone too far so you reel it back a bit okay because I want it to look natural but with my fiance for example he has a really bad habit of doing this I have finally gotten him into the habit of chin forward and down and he showed me a photo of himself the other day where he did that on his own and I said it looks so good like I can see your jawline it's perfect so that is a huge tip that I often use with my couples to make sure that their faces look their best their necks look a lot more slender and their jawline is a lot more defined especially for men now another thing I want to talk about that's kind of a posing mistake is body language when I have couples working together and facing each other I never want them kind of facing each other but like one of them is out and not connected but they're kissing okay so whenever you kind of have the hips turned away unless it's strategically done it looks awkward so always get in there and embrace them and don't be afraid to go hips to hips this is an engagement session or a wedding you two are married or getting married so get close don't be turned off with your body language also grooms biggest thing I see in other photographers work that drives me absolutely nuts is what I call the dead arm when the couple is kissing or something romantic and the groom's arm is just dangling by a sign what's it doing I don't know it doesn't have a purpose it's not in his pocket it's not holding something it's not wrapping it around the arms of the bride it's just dangling dead like a fish out at sea that is not good that is such a bad thing when I have attended photography conferences in the past when I go and watch the competitions that was the number one thing they were critiquing for portraits was the dead arm of the groom sometimes of the bride give yourself somewhere to put your if you're not sure ask your photographer nothing else wrap it around your loved one you know hold on to them make sure that you guys are connected if it's not in a place where it can be wrapping around them stick it in your pocket that's a pretty suave look it's very easy or hold on to something I don't know like just make it have a purpose hands dangling out in the sea that don't have a purpose or aren't nicely post look awkward and they draw attention away from your face and your expressions so that is a huge tip just don't let yourself have a dead arm the last thing is a really forced smile I tell all of my couples to practice their smile and practice telling each other things or thinking of things that will kind of elicit a natural smile I'm also trying to help them do this on the day but every now and then I have a couple usually at the groom it's almost always the groom whose smile is just so obviously forced and no matter what I do no matter how many jokes I make no matter how comfortable I try to make them their smile just looks forced so this is where it comes in to have a good attitude and to want to be there and if you're feeling really really nervous and that's why your smile looks forced have a beer and do something fun walk around a little bit shake it out do whatever you need to do to feel more relaxed so your smile it's not like that's no good you need to have a real smile like this so it's definitely something that I recommend practicing in the mirror together try to think of things that make you laugh or smile it's really worth it and it's not stupid I do it when I'm prepping for something and I need to have a certain look I make sure that I know how that look feels when it looks at me in the mirror so that I know that I can produce that same look on camera so that's just a really great tip of not having a forced smile if you need music if you need cocktails if you need I don't know the photographer to make silly jokes like whatever is that's gonna get you to have that real smile communicate that and work with your photographer or your significant other to ensure that you look naturally happy in your photos hope you guys enjoyed these posing mistakes flash habits these are the top ones that I see over and over and over again if I ever think of more I will do a part for you guys let me know down in the comments below which one of these you think you might have a problem with that you're gonna need to be practicing I'll see you next time guys bye